There’s no excuse for not sounding charming and hilarious over text. Limiting your conversations to lots of “haha!” and “cool” will lead her to believe that either you’re too lazy or just not funny—and that’s when your chances of scoring plummet. So throw out a line from Wedding Crashers or send a picture of Beauty and the Beast (“Us?”)—seriously, anything. Leave the simple texts for your mom.
An oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an opposite-sex friendship with a person at work, spin or yoga class, the gym, or through your child's school or extra-curricular activities. For some reason, they feel compelled to exchange phone numbers. There's no real need for this, although your spouse tells you that they need to stay in touch because of work or to coordinate fitness class, the kids activities, etc.
Referring to someone you just met as “hun/sweetheart” seems borderline creepy to me. It’s too superficial. If I received this reference towards me in a text before even a second date, I would not answer, or if I answered I’d let the guy know “thanks but no thanks”. Perhaps that’s just me. Instead, in the first text you can just refer to me by my name. Subsequently, you don’t really need to address me directly, just say “Hey” then continue on with your text. After a couple of successful dates (meaning you were both smiling and/or laughing at times, and both seemed to enjoy the dates) the nicknames and cute references like “sweetheart” will feel more natural and fitting.
A line like this is actually really effective and a lot more intricate than you might think. For one, it challenges the woman in question who’s been ignoring you, to hang out with you and not be a “diddler” like you’re suggesting she is. It also qualifies her, which is huge in game, and makes her want to hang out with you just to prove to you that she’s not what you’re calling her.
Español: enviar un mensaje de texto a la chica que te gusta, Português: Mandar Mensagem Para uma Garota Que Você Gosta, Français: envoyer des textos à une fille qui vous plait, Italiano: Scambiare Sms con una Ragazza Che Ti Piace, Deutsch: Einem netten Mädchen eine SMS senden, 中文: 给你喜欢的姑娘发短信, Русский: переписываться с девушкой, которая нравится, Nederlands: Een sms'je sturen aan een meisje dat je leuk vindt, Čeština: Jak si psát s dívkou, která se vám líbí, Bahasa Indonesia: Berkirim Pesan Dengan Wanita yang Disukai, 한국어: 좋아하는 여성한테 문자하는 법, العربية: مراسلة الفتاة التي تعجبك, Tiếng Việt: Nhắn tin cho cô gái bạn thích, ไทย: ส่งข้อความหาสาวที่คุณชอบ, 日本語: 好きな女子にテキストメッセージを送る, Türkçe: Hoşlanılan Kıza Nasıl Mesaj Atılır, हिन्दी: जिस लड़की को चाहते हों उसे टेक्स्ट करें
Don't try too hard. If you're trying too hard when you're first texting a girl, she'll be able to tell right away. Remember to be yourself and don't go out of your way to say something that doesn't even sound like you just because you think it will impress her. The worst part about trying too hard is that the girl will be able to tell that you're doing it right away.
Very good point. I’d even add that “how r u, I want 2 meet u” does not vex me because I think it’s a childish way but because the guy shows me I am not worth for him to take the time to write “you”. I admit it’s creepy but generally if someone who is not a real friend writes to me at the end of a text LG instead on “Liebe Grüße” (German for kind regard) I think this person is lazy and does not really care about me (and each time I wonder: why do I think this? But I do!).
After all, no one knows your marriage or your spouse better than you do. Texting affairs are the gateway to emotional and physical affairs. Of the infidelity cases I've dealt with in the past several years, the vast majority started out as "innocent" texting between opposite-sex friends or acquaintances. You are not over-reacting by insisting that a spouse end a texting relationship that you feel in your heart is undermining your marriage, and you are not over-reacting by treating it as a form of infidelity.