#6 Keep it short and simple. Try to keep the texts short if you want to keep the conversation going. Your focus is to get her to keep all her attention on you when she’s texting. And to do that, you need to keep the beeping texts going back and forth as soon as you can. Long texts can leave her bored when she’s waiting for you to respond. Or worse, she may occupy herself with the television or do something else that’ll leave her distracted while waiting for your text.
I just read your whole book last night, and I never felt so enlightened in all my life. There were so many things in it I realized before, but I never believed before I read your book. Then I thought about it and realized that way you said guys should act is the exact same way my friends who score a lot act. Thanks a lot for writing it, if you are ever in Pittsburgh I’ll buy you a beer (but no kissing)…
I’m not saying not to say edgy, funny, even risqué things through text—in fact, I encourage this. All I’m saying is keep it to the edgy, funny, and risqué things that actually come out of your mouth from time to time. Be willing to say those things again to her in person. It will work out great for you if you can develop a game where you can say gutsy statements through text and then back them up in person.
Gah it doesn’t work on this girl, I did everything here, and I did it before even looking for this site, still she doesn’t seem that interested even tho we have a lot of things in common, both hobbies and personality. And I don’t think she is out of my league lol cuz she isn’t exactly megan fox…. she said she is too busy, and can only talk once a week from now on.. now I have to sit here just waiting…waiting…waiting… waiting.. and I dunno if she just said shes busy to get rid of me 🙂
Hi, I like this girl but it seems like m in her friendz zone. I also doubt that she’s into some relationship. as i have managed to get her number, i want to knw what exactly to text her. the method of eye contact u mentioned in reply to Ryle’s comment was tried by me but did not work. How is that it didn’t work for me?? Plz Help! I’ll call U on my wedding 😉
You have to understand whom you want to address and why. If you find a real lady she does not want to play games, I assure you. Generally women hate playing games. We don’t want men to fake, to use tricks, to wait a little longer to respond because you think that we think that you think (…you see? This is mental masturbation, it might work but is does not work with grown ups or people with guts, so better forget it. When a man thinks “A” usually a women in the same time thinks “ABC446gSIEHFNI&%ß…” so please be kind and don’t drive us insane with games. Thank you).
This last text technique has really worked well in the past for me and for my students. Basically, you want to qualify her and call her out in a funny way for not wanting to hang out with you. You can say something like, “What’s up sweetheart? Are you going to hang out this week, or are you going to keep being a Diddler?” Now, before you laugh and say, what a ridiculous thing to say, hear me out.
It’s like going to a professional job interview dressed in a tank-top and gym shorts. You come across as totally beneath her and look like a complete fool. Instead, if you’re talking to an intelligent woman, mirror her intelligence. Show her that you’re just as smart as she is by spelling words correctly and speaking with a good level of sophistication. Don’t try to be pedantic, but be her equal. Speak like her intellectual equivalent. Spell all of your words correctly, and follow good English grammar laws.

Another technique you can use if she doesn’t answer the two texts you’ve most likely sent her is to do what they used to do in the olden days—call her! Yes, you heard me correctly. Just pick up your phone, dial her number, and press the little green PHONE icon once. Call her, for Christ’s sake! This should most likely be done approximately a week or two later, after she did not reply back to your two texts.


Choosing your words carefully, you ask your partner who he or she is texting. If you already know who it is, you might tell your partner that you are concerned or feeling second-place. Or perhaps you wait until your partner is in the shower and give in to the urge to scroll through his or her phone. Either way, you hear or see something that makes your stomach sink.
Typing errors are common when you are texting someone. So, in case your woman texts you and it has some of these errors, you can use it to your advantage. Pull her leg for those typing errors and make the relationship between you two jovial. But do not overdo this, lest she will start seeing you as her grammar teacher and not someone who is interested in her.
Even though flirting is a big part of dating, it’s often easier said than done. Will you say the wrong thing? Will you come off as cheesy? Will they misinterpret your motives? And flirting over text message can be even harder, considering your crush can’t hear your tone or see your facial expression. But there are actually a lot of positives to flirting over text. For starters, you can take your time to say the perfect thing. And the barrier may actually allow you to open up more than you would in person.
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